The hubby and I got ourselves to church this weekend! This is huge. Ever since sweet girl was born, it’s been a whirlwind of up and down and this or that time not working for whatever reason; and we all know once you’re out of the habit it’s very easy to stay out. I’m super excited because I think I found an option that will work for us and I’m so happy to get back into the groove of things!
That being said- this weekend’s message was ON POINT. It had so many correlations to real life for me. One of the things said was that your life can be full, but at the same time not be fulfilling. This spun into a conversation about how you can dedicate your life to get your kids to all sorts of different events or practices, filling your life with the busyness of being the perfect parent, all the while not doing a single thing to FULfill your life (use whatever example relates to your own life). Invest in things that matter! Right after having a baby, I immediately felt the pressure to keep up with everyone’s perfect Facebook life with kids. For example one week, it’s a family trip to the zoo where everyone behaved and smiled for each picture, the weekend before that was the family photos with matching sweaters and smiles, and we’ve already heard about next weekend, the annual camping trip where even the 3 year old has skis engraved with their names. GET REAL people. Get real. My therapist has an amazing and very real thing that encompasses this whole idea of perfectness. Ready? “Facebook envy.” Yes, my friend, it is a real thing. When you are constantly thinking about how perfect others’ lives are (read: perception), you suddenly have every reason under the sun to no longer be satisfied with yours. Guess what. If people have time, money, and what must be a sea of babysitters willing to sit at the last minute- go for it, live that life. But for the majority of us, that isn’t real, and it’s not what matters. Don’t force yourself to have a “full” life and confuse it for a “fulfilling” one. That’s deep. Less is more.
Next, the parable was shared about when Jesus and the disciples stayed with Martha and Mary. Martha was busy making all the food, prepping, etc. and yelled at Jesus and Mary because Mary wasn’t helping. Most of the time, when this passage is shared, the perception is given that Martha was wrong. Are you ready for this lesson, because it’s a big one. Martha was not wrong. She was distracted. Huge difference. Have you thought of it that way before? I know I hadn’t! Martha was not committing a sin, and the passage never said she was wrong. In fact, if you had 16+ people in your living room, you’d be off prepping up a storm to make sure
all those Facebook pics turn out perfect you serve the best to your friends! But the point is, Jesus was a priority to Martha, and He was in her home; yet she was so caught up, she wasn’t focusing on what was important. She was distracted. Less is more.
Another huge lesson for me was regarding the “as soon as life”. You know… as soon as you get a promotion, blah. Or, as soon as the baby gets into school, blah. As soon as we fix the leak, blah. As soon as this season is over, blah. A lot of people live this way, and up until this weekend, I’d say I was one of them. There’s always something, and there’s always going to be something; because AS SOON AS the one thing is done, there will always be another thing that needs to be done. That’s the way it works. “We confuse motion with progress” (Pastor’s quote). We keep moving and moving thinking we’re better for it, living this full life, when really you aren’t making any progress. I relate this a lot to our budget. Last year around this time, the baby had just arrived, we had a ton-o-bills due to all the heart, ear, and preemie testing and we kept thing AS SOON AS we pay this off, we’ll be able to work on the student loans again. Then, as soon as summer is here we’ll pay this off because of whatever. So on, so forth. It just didn’t happen. Now, looking back, we kept moving, kept buying, kept paying off… the credit card. This, instead of living within our means and paying off existing debt. I must say, a lot of this is my fault because I gained baby weight and at the same time was very deeply depressed and gave myself authority to buy an entirely new wardrobe. Over the course of the whole year. Essspensive. And still paying for it. Don’t live an as soon as life. Less is more.
I leave you with a thought Pastor gave us. Do you remember what you liked on Facebook last week? Do you remember that thing you had to do last September 13th that caused you to go off on someone because you just HAD to do it? Do you remember the team you were cheering for during the playoffs even though your team was already out of them when you just had to watch that game and made the kids leave you alone? No. But do you remember when your daughter ran into your arms for a big hug when you surprised her, or the last time you laid in bed with your husband and stayed up talking for hours? Don’t get distracted. Don’t fill your life with things that don’t matter. Recharge your soul with the things that do matter and aspire to live a FULL life.
Less is more.
A link to this beautiful sermon, “Recharge Your Soul”